Do you question your abilities and feel less of a person when surrounded by other people? Do you feel the need to boost your self-confidence? Don’t worry you are not alone.
We all have our bad days when our confidence level reaches the lowest possible. But if you feel this way most of the time, then your feeling is not limited to bad days, rather it is an indication of low self-confidence.
So here comes the big question – WHAT IS CONFIDENCE?
Confidence is being in peace with yourself. It is the ability to love yourself for who you are.
It is a feeling. How you feel about yourself, how you respond to the feelings of others about you, is nothing but confidence.
Confidence means you trust yourself and you value your opinions. It’s the shield which protects you from negativity.
No one is born confident (YES! The person that exudes confidence and makes you feel uncomfortable, was not born that way). The good news is, you can become confident too, as confidence is an acquired trait.
Confidence is built over time by taking control of your feelings.
Come in terms with your own self and see the magic unfold.
Today I’ll share with you 10 ways to boost your self-confidence from scratch. These tips can be easily implemented in your life and are great to upscale your confidence level. A little shift in the mindset and habits can help you cultivate confidence and live the life of your dreams.
WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO BOOST YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE?
” When you have a lot of confidence and you feel like nobody can beat you, its game over for everyone else.”– Jason Day
Confidence can completely change the way you look at life. An increase in Self-confidence can bring different results in every person’s life, but we can all agree to the following benefits:
- Improvedself-confidence means improved life.
- You will feel more powerful than you have felt ever before.
- You can do things you were too afraid to try.
- Ability to make decisions.
- Increased self-respect.
- Feeling in charge of your life.
- Courage to take a stand for yourself.
- Life will be more beautiful.
10 WAYS TO BOOST YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE
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1. DO NOT BE YOUR OWN CRITIC
You cannot change the way people talk to you, but you can definitely change the way you talk to yourself.
Words hurt, so please be nice to yourself. Understand that it’s OK to make mistakes and learn from them.
Words such as –
- I am good for nothing.
- They are better than me.
- I deserve to suffer.
- Everyone hates me.
- I hate my life.
are upsetting and don’t you think you should be the last person on this earth to hurt your feelings?
Learn to comfort yourself and stop being your own bully.
If you ever find it tricky to comfort yourself, imagine a friend at your position and say what you would say to a friend.
If you cannot say “You are good for nothing” to a friend, then why do you use such a language when it comes to you. You deserve respect and a second chance just like everyone in this world.
Be your friend and not an enemy.
Next time whenever your inner critic tries to tell you something, stop it right there. Just say the opposite of what your critic says to you. If possible go in front of the mirror and tell your inner critic to SHUT UP.
For example – If your critic says “don’t attempt it, you will fail”. Tell your critic “I AM GOING TO DO IT AND I WILL SUCCEED”.
If you try this, I am sure your critic will leave your mind within a few weeks.
2. LEARN SOMETHING NEW
“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”– Mahatma Gandhi
No matter what age you are, what profession you belong to, learn something new.
Learn anything which amazes you, and you find interesting. Learning something is the perfect way to remain engaged and stay away from self-destructive thoughts, which is one of the major reasons for low self-confidence.
It could be anything from learning to cook or learning a new language to doing a technical course. Remember, it is never too late to learn.
Learning empowers you and gives you a feeling of attainment. It makes you creative and provides you with new opportunities. When you achieve something after learning, it gives you a sense of pride. And confidence is all about how you feel.
3. ACCEPT YOURSELF
Be comfortable in your skin. You are perfect just the way you are.
Your skin colour, hair and every part of your body are gorgeous.
Don’t be fooled by the images you see on social media. They only show you what they want you to see. What happens behind the scenes is not that rosy.
Love your body and the way you look.
Wear what makes you feel confident. Have a few favourite dresses reserved in your closet, especially to wear on the days when you feel low. Wearing your favourite dress instantly brightens up your mood and makes you feel more confident.
4. ASK QUESTIONS
Confidence has a different meaning for every person.
For some people, confidence means public speaking, while to some it means taking a stand or making their point.
Understand why you feel unconfident and what confidence means to you.
- Why do you feel the need to boost your Self-Confidence?
- What makes you think you are not confident enough?
- If given a chance what you wish, you could do?
- What holds you back?
- When do you feel the need to be more confident? Is it around your boss, colleague or a family member?
At the end of the day, write down any situation you encountered, where you wished you were more confident. Do this for a few weeks.
Most of the times, you’ll find that the situations are similar. Look for a pattern and find out what confidence means to you. Find out what you want to become.
It is very important to know, what exactly you expect from yourself because you can only achieve something when you know what you are chasing.
5. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
” If you can imagine it, you can achieve it. If you can dream it, you can become it “-William Arthur Ward
Nothing is impossible in this world.
Think about what is stopping you from becoming the most confident person in this world.
The answer is simple – Self-doubt.
Do something out of your comfort zone. Try something new that you have never done before.
Do not fear failure. If you fail, try again, make mistakes and learn from them. The more you learn, the better.
Failure is not an outcome. It is a second chance to do better.
The only forces that are holding you back from becoming a person you want to be, are your fear and your lack of belief in your potential.
Trust yourself and aim for the sky.
6. PRACTICE GRATITUDE
Be thankful for the things you have. Shift your focus from what other people have, to what you have.
Lack of confidence often stems from comparing your life with other people.
You are unique. There is no one like you in this entire universe so stop comparing.
Do not try to become someone else. You are amazing the way you are.
Your uniqueness is your strength. Don’t waste your time and energy in losing your strength.
You cannot become a confident person by wishing “you were like someone else” or by counting your failures. Confidence comes when you are aware of your capabilities.
Unearth your true potential and show the world what you are made of.
Remind yourself each day of how much you have to be grateful for. Look for things around you which you take for granted and start appreciating them.
Acknowledge little things that make you happy. Do not ignore those happy moments just because you believe that is how it is supposed to be.
Maintain a gratitude journal and keep a record of all the great things in your life.
Every day, write about three things that you are grateful for and three amazing things that happened during the day. You can download your free printable journal from below.
Do this every day for a month and at the end of each week read your journal. You’ll be surprised to see, how many beautiful things happen to you each day and how much you have to be thankful for.
7. LEARN TO SAY NO
It’s that simple. Just say no to things, you don’t like or don’t want to do.
Stop people-pleasing. The only person you should be pleasing is you.
Saying Yes to people to save your relationship is a harmful habit which kills your confidence slowly.
There is a difference between helping others and being used. It is vital to know the difference between the two in order to honour yourself.
Every time you say no to something insignificant, you say yes to your priorities.
It is necessary to set boundaries within which you can grow. Say no to everything that tries to interfere with your growth and success.
8. GIVE COMPLIMENTS
We all can agree on one thing. Complements are amazing, and it makes a person feel so special.
You compliment other people. Right?
But do you compliment yourself or pat your back when you do something great?
I believe not.
It’s never too late to start complimenting yourself for every little thing you do. You have every right to feel special.
Be the first person to acknowledge your hard work and compliment yourself.
Whenever someone else compliments you, accept it with a smile and believe in it. Take every complement very seriously.
Confidence is not about gaining something new, it is about respecting what you already have.
9. USE POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Lack of confidence feeds on negative thoughts and negative self-image.
Challenge the negativity around with positive affirmations.
In the beginning, these affirmations may seem a little too much but with time as you repeat them over and over again, they will become a part of your subconscious mind.
Believe in what you are saying and your world will change for good.
Some of the positive affirmation to boost your self-confidence are –
- I am a confident person
- I love my life
- Each day I am improving
- I respect myself
- Success will come my way
- I won’t give up
- I deserve happiness
Repeat these affirmations several times a day until they become a reality. Have faith in yourself and trust your potential. You can do anything as long as you believe in your dreams.
10. ELIMINATE TOXIC PEOPLE
“You need to associate with people that inspire you, people that challenge you to rise higher, people that make you better. Don’t waste your valuable time with people that are not adding to your growth. Your destiny is too important.”– Joel Osteen
If there are people around you that do not treat you the way you deserve, leave them or try to spend as less time as you can with them.
Surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you and who dare to support you in every situation. Your company affects the way you think and perceive yourself.
A good friend will always give you an honest opinion but would never be mean and disrespectful to you. A true friend will always be there to boost your self-confidence.
Choose your company wisely.
We all have toxic people in our life and they are called toxic for a reason. They shrink our wealth, confidence, mental peace, health and a lot more. They basically take your life away from you.
If you are surrounded by people who are negative, no matter how hard you try, they will always find something to complain about. They will find flaws even when you are at your best.
Do not let such people decide your fate.
You cannot boost your self-confidence, when there are people who are constantly putting you down.
No one is more important than your self-esteem and self-confidence. Choose yourself over toxic relationships.
Don’t let anyone decide what you deserve and what you don’t. It’s your life and you take charge of it.